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Searah Deysach , sex educator and owner of pleasure shop Early to Bed, points out that hands-free vibrators can upgrade your pleasure during partnered play, too. “With a partner, toys that you don’t have to hold onto allow you touch and feel your partner and stimulate them simultaneously,” she says. Plus, since many vulva-owners can’t orgasm from penetration alone, consider hands-free vibrators a strategy for taking the elevator rather than the stairs to climax. This sex toy is designed to be worn beneath your panties, so you can enjoy discreet fun wherever you go. Plus, the wireless range is 30ft, so your partner can control the vibration settings from across the room with the hand-held remote. While many vibrators and sex toys are designed for use on just one part of the body, palm vibrators can be used basically anywhere.

Stimulating your clitoris is a gateway to mind-blowing orgasms, but there is no one method that fits all, and that’s crucial to remember before you invest in a vibrator. Necessity being the mother of invention, physicians began experimenting with mechanical substitutes for their hands. They tried a number of genital massage contraptions, among them water-driven gadgets (the forerunners of today’s shower massage devices), and pumping, steam-driven dildos. But the machines were cumbersome, messy, often unreliable, and sometimes dangerous. By the early 19th century, physician-assisted paroxysm was firmly entrenched in Europe and the U.S., and proved a financial godsend for many doctors.

The starfish-style shape and texture of this toy give you a lot of different angles and textures to experiment with. Queer- and trans-owned company Cute Little Fuckers makes a wide range of gender-inclusive products, all of which are adorable-looking, but this frilly little starfish might just be the standout. You want the toy to be a part of the experience, not the entire focus of the experience. Be sure to remind your partner how sexy they are and how much you love their penis/vulva/body. The last thing you want to bring home to a nervous partner is some scary, veiny, Rabbit vibrator with a million spinning beads and a realistic penis-head.

“They are designed to go in your butt and stay in your butt,” Wright says. This creates a feeling of fullness while leaving your hands free for other activities. Meanwhile viberator, anal beads are meant to move in and out of your butt, massaging all of the nerves you have down there, she adds. Some anal toys also vibrate, notes psychotherapist Joy Berkheimer, PhD, LMFT, an expert at SXWA, a sexual wellness award platform, which can feel even better. Smile Maker’s Ballerina is designed to wrap your entire vulva in a hug of rumbly vibrations. It’s curved to match the shape of your body, which means you can use the toy hands-free when you’re lying on your back.

It’s not as fancy as some high-end models, but for the cost, it’s a steal. The Lioness Vibrator earns its title as the most innovative with its groundbreaking biofeedback technology. Going beyond the conventional, it allows users to track and analyze their arousal patterns through a companion app. This data-driven approach empowers users to understand and enhance their pleasure, making The Lioness a revolutionary choice for those who value the exploration element of intimate experiences. Customers find the massager works well, with one noting it’s more effective than massage guns, and they appreciate how it feels good on sore muscles and relieves tightness and knots.

“You can use a wand during masturbation or partnered play for direct and targeted stimulation of the genitals,” Frye-Nekrasova says. “You can also use wands as foreplay of partner play by giving each other full-body massages with wands to fully relax and prep for fun together.” We named this small but mighty vibrator the best sex toy for travel, but it’s also an elite clitoral vibrator on its own, offering targeted vibrations as well as a lovely rumbly sensation across the vulval. Waterproof and made with medical-grade silicone, the tiny vibrator has a ridge to target the clit, and there are five intensities and patterns so you can customize the experience exactly how you’d like it. “Dame has really good products,” adds Gigi Engle, certified sex and relationships psychotherapist and resident sex expert at SexToysUK. “They’re reliable and high-quality.”It’s fully waterproof, so there are no limits to where you can bring this thing (and it also has a convenient travel-lock feature).